False Advertising

After my last post I had numerous debates with people about whether it was right to cheat just because someone is boring. Some people thought that I was saying that if a girl doesn't do whatever a guy wants then she deserves to get cheated on which is definitely not the case.

Firstly, let me make this perfectly clear. I am NOT saying that if a guy asks a girl to do some freaky sex act and she declines that this gives him the right to cheat or that she should expect it to happen. My point was that if a girl is open minded enough to try certain things and then gets judged for it, I would just have a little think about my sex life because it's not normally the people in sexually satisfying relationships that break up because of infidelities.

This does however, bring me to my next point, and main focus of this post. This issue surrounding girls being sexually adventurous, or guys for that matter, or a lack thereof is only an issue when there is some kind of false advertising.
Some of my friends are right that you can't complain about a girl being boring if she was boring when she got with you. This is not to say that a guy won't complain, or cheat on her anyway, but it eliminates the lack of sexual diversity as a reason to do so. So then why do so many guys, and girls to a lesser degree, cheat on their other halves because of boring sex lives? For the answer to this we need look no further that the genesis of the relationship. Thats right, the dating stage and the early sexual encounters.  It's in this stage that the lies get told by both sexes, however it's what the lies are about that is the problem.  Guys tend to lie or embellish about things that will make us appear more interesting to your specific tastes. Talking about things that will interest you. I might have never been to an art museum in my life, but all of a sudden I'm the biggest art fan in the world. I might not give a fuck about travelling but all of a sudden I've got grand designs to visit Vietnam and help poor people. Boys, the same as girls, will say what they need to, to get the job done. That's just the way the game is played and we all accept that. You show a bit of yourself, lie about the rest and introduce your real personality as time goes on. The difference between boys and girls a lot of the time, is that our lies will either be found out pretty quickly and so a girl will chuck us, or if the relationship blossoms we've got time to actually take an interest in these things. Girls on the other hand, while still coming out with the normal dating lies designed to make them seem like the kind of girl you would want to be with, also tend to portray their sexual preferences in an exaggerated light. Its like their real sexual preferences on steroids. Where they might have tried anal once, all of a sudden they love it. Where they like sex as much as the next girl, all of a sudden they are insatiable and can't get enough. They love giving blow jobs more than they love anything. It all sounds so good to us. The problem comes six months down the line or a year down the line when we find out that it was all words. See whereas I, as a guy, can take my lie about loving that thing you love, and start doing something about it so that you don't get pissed off, you, as a girl, can't just learn to be a nymph all of a sudden.

I think this is where the problem comes. If a guy lies about his personality to a massive degree and turns out to be a douche, he'll get dropped and rightfully so. However if you are in an amazing relationship with a girl and as time goes on the sex fizzles out, whats the guy going to do? He obviously cares about the girl having been with her for a bit, so can't just dump her because it's not like her personality has changed. So if after talking about it nothing changes, eventually cheating might come into it. I'm not saying it's right or fair. It is what it is. If the shoe was on the other foot I'd say the same thing. If you act like you're bringing something to the table and then fail to deliver on it when it was a big part of why someone got with you, what do you expect? And sex is a massive thing no matter what people say. It's a shitty truth about a lot of guys; sometimes we care too much to break up with a girl, but not enough not to cheat.

To bring this full circle, I'll use the same analogy I used in my last post. People don't watch boring TV shows. They change the channel. It doesn't matter how good the trailer was, if the actual show doesn't deliver what it promised we will watch something else.

I repeat!...KEEP. IT. INTERESTING!